Family Mediation - What is it

Family Mediation is a process where you sort out family disputes with the support of another person, a mediator to assist you in talking about your family and what’s best for them.

How we can help you

Your Family First are experts in supporting you to make decisions that are right for your family. Mediation means you stay in control of all the decisions you need to make.

How much does it cost?

At Your Family First, if you have to pay for mediation, we are clear about the costs every step of the way. Contact us now to find out if you can use mediation free of charge.

From April 2013, the availability of Public Funding or Legal Aid was significantly reduced for Family Proceedings. This means that many people now have to represent themselves in court. This can be confusing and stressful. If you qualify for financial help, this may be done in the form of a Contribution Order where you are expected to pay back some or all of your Legal Aid depending on the settlement you agree with your former partner.

Legal Aid for mediation is different.  If you qualify for Legal Aid, you do not have to pay back the help from any agreed settlement.

Feel free to contact us if you’d like to know more about the cost of mediation

In mediation you….

Talk - Perhaps you feel like the time for talking has passed. Perhaps you feel like you’ve said everything that needs to be said and now its time for action so that things move forward. Mediation can help you do this by supporting you in communicating your thoughts and ideas. In mediation, you decide what you want to talk about, based on what’s important to you and your family. Mediation can help you make a plan to move you and your family forward.

Listen - Mediation gives you the opportunity to stop and listen. Listening is a skill, it takes practice and is even harder when you’re emotionally involved. Its easy to think we ‘listen’ but we often hear what we want to hear. In mediation, the mediator will encourage you both to be open and ask questions of each other and clarify thoughts and feelings. In this way, you get to hear what each other are really saying by removing the assumptions and ‘mind-reads’ that we can easily fall into.

Decide - When relationships break down, decisions have to made. Sometimes we feel that we have to make decisions that are not comfortable. Mediation gives you the time and space to work things out together so that you both agree. We find that as you begin to talk and listen, difficult decision making becomes easier as you begin to work together for a solution for your family.

Contact Chris Myles, Family Mediator, for help and advice on how Family Mediation could work for you and your family.