Family Mediation Solicitors

At Crombie Wilkinson Solicitors, we offer family mediation services in York, Malton, Selby and Pickering. We are proud to be one of the few law firms in North Yorkshire to offer this service and we continue to receive positive client testimonials from those that have worked with us.

Our mediation service is called Your Family First and we help people work out arrangements for their children and family finances in a discreet and professional way. With trained mediation specialists in our team, we make sure you take a positive step forward to finding a resolution for you and your family.

Speak to our family mediation solicitors in York & North Yorkshire

For more information about using our family mediation service, contact your local Crombie Wilkinson office in York, Malton, Selby or Pickering.

Alternatively, use our quick online enquiry form to ask a question or request a call back at a time that suits you.

Your Family First – how our family mediation solicitors in York can help you

At a time when you think there is nowhere else to turn, family mediation could be the answer.

Your Family First is our family mediation service in York and North Yorkshire. Although we are based at the offices of Crombie Wilkinson, we are more than a lawyer led mediation service. Amongst our skilled family law team, we have Chris Myles, a fully qualified Family Mediator who can conduct private and legal aid mediations. Chris has over 20 years’ experience as a mediator and almost 30 years as a qualified lawyer.

As well as being a member of the Family Mediation Panel, Chris is a member of Resolution, an organisation dedicated to helping families sort out issues with minimal stress. Chris is also qualified to undertake child consultation as part of the meditation process if relevant and appropriate.

At a time when you think there is nowhere else to turn, family mediation could be the answer. If you’re separating or getting a divorce, mediation is a proven way to calmly discuss arrangements with your partner or other family members. Communication is key and our mediators are here to make that easier, without the added stress of going to Court.

Your Family First is a dedicated family mediation service separate to the work we carry out in a capacity as a solicitor firm. We adopt a friendly, welcoming and approachable manner to our mediation services, combining our expert knowledge in family law matters. As mediators we cannot give clients legal advice but we can give them legal information and ensure they have up to date information when making decisions.

Why choose our dedicated family mediation service in York & North Yorkshire?

Here are just some of the ways using family mediation for your divorce or family law matter could benefit you:

Stay in control of decisions for your family

Your Family First are experts in supporting you to make decisions that are right for your family. Mediation means you stay in control of all the decisions you need to make. At Your Family First we believe that every family is different and therefore your mediation experience is always unique. We recognise that mediation can often be challenging for families and so we create a safe and supportive environment for you to share your thoughts and feelings. However, mediation is not coaching or counselling and it is not a substitute for these services.

Find better ways to communicate with your family

Mediation may be first time in a long time that you have felt able to say what you really think and feel about issues that are affecting your family. Sometimes when families face difficult times, it becomes hard to communicate. This might be when a relationship is breaking down and can also be when teenagers are trying to assert their independence, or you and your adult siblings having to make decisions about how to care best for ageing parents. Whatever your family issue, we can help.

Explore solutions with the help of a qualified professional

Mediation is about acknowledging difference then moving forward and seeking solutions that work for you and your family. If you get stuck, the mediator is there to help get the communication going again. If your relationship is ending or has ended, and you have children who are not yet adults, the mediation process helps to come to terms with a new style of communication in your new relationship as parents but not partners.

At Your Family First, we encourage you to let go of your assumptions and stop ‘mind reading’. In families, it’s easy to believe that we know what other family members think and feel about certain things and often we are right. However, our experience shows that in many circumstances, this ‘mind reading’ that we all do, is sometimes not accurate. Making assumptions is a normal part of life but it can also get in the way. In mediation, the mediator assists you by supporting you to say exactly what you mean and also supporting the other person to really listen and hear what you are saying. We often find that both parties are surprised at things they hear in mediation because of assumptions that have been made. Once you are back in communication with each other, making agreements becomes easier.

Our Service Pledge to you

We are committed to delivering an excellent client experience for you focused on securing a safe and positive future for you and your family.

When you utilise our family mediation service, you will receive the full benefit of our Service Pledge. You can rely on us to get to know you and your family so we can carefully tailor our services to suit your needs and achieve the results you want.

We will:

  • listen and care about you and your circumstances
  • treat you politely, considerately and with respect
  • work with you as a team so you come to know and trust us
  • update you regularly using plain language
  • work hard to avoid delays
  • contact you should unforeseen events happen
  • ensure there are no surprises on costs
  • take on board your feedback so we can continuously improve our service

We work hard to be inclusive and accessible for every individual, regardless of personal circumstances. So, if you require any accommodations, please get in touch to discuss your needs with a member of our team.

Your questions about family mediation answered

What is family mediation?

Family mediation is a popular form of alternative dispute resolution where you and members of your family can discuss family matters with the help of a qualified mediator. It can be used to resolve all kinds of issues, including:

If mediation is successful, you will only need to deal with the court for administrative purposes, such as to file a divorce petition or formalise your agreement and you probably won’t have to attend court in person at all.

For some more information, visit our Family Mediation – What Is It page.

Why choose family mediation?

Mediation is a great way to resolve family issues without having to go to court. Many people find the idea of court proceedings daunting because of the cost, the idea of conflict, and the risk that a judge will make an unsuitable decision on their behalf. For these reasons, the court process can be quite stressful, particularly where children are involved.

Mediation is designed specifically to take away that stress by providing a neutral environment where you can be open about your requirements and feelings. The mediator’s job is not to act like a judge but to help you and your former partner or family member reach an agreement without any unnecessary conflict.

Trying mediation doesn’t mean you won’t be able to go to court if you need to. You can even use mediation if court proceedings are ongoing – it is never too late to try to settle amicably.

How does family mediation work?

You will attend a meeting or series of meetings with your former partner or family member over several weeks. At each meeting, the mediator will help you discuss whatever issues are at hand and take steps to defuse any conflict.

Although the mediator will usually be a qualified family lawyer, their role is not to provide legal advice or to take sides. If you are able to come to an agreement at the end of mediation, the mediator will put your agreement in writing (called a Memorandum of Understanding). However, you will not be forced to agree to anything you are not happy with.

How much does family mediation cost?

Family mediation is generally cheaper than court proceedings. How much it will cost will ultimately depend on the individual circumstances of your case and largely dependent on the number of sessions needed which can usually be 1 to 3 with 1 to 3 sessions being usual.

We always aim to be open and transparent about our pricing. If you are on certain benefits or a low income, you may be eligible for family legal aid, and our family mediation solicitor, Chris Myles, accepts clients on both a private and a legal aid basis.

If you would like to request a family mediation quote, please give us a call or fill in our online enquiry form.

How long does family mediation take?

Family mediation usually doesn’t take as long as court proceedings because:

  • You don’t have to comply with the court’s timetable, you can arrange your mediation sessions to fit around your own schedule
  • Once people agree to mediation they are usually open to cooperative discussion allowing issues to be dealt with quickly
  • Lower conflict means that issues are often resolved faster

The exact length of time mediation will take will depend on your individual circumstances. However, you will usually have to attend a few sessions over a few weeks to get the full benefit.

Do I have to attend family mediation?

No one can force you to attend family mediation. However, for certain court applications, such as Child Arrangements Orders, the court will not consider your case until you have attended a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). This is just a meeting to see whether you are eligible for mediation.

For more information, please visit our MIAMs page.

Are family mediation agreements legally binding?

Any agreement you come to during family mediation will not be automatically legally binding. However, you can apply to court for a Consent Order to make the agreement legally binding. Once your Consent Order is approved, you and the other party must comply with it. If the other party breaches the Order – for example, they don’t stick to your parenting arrangements – you will be able to take legal action to enforce it.

Can you go back on a mediation agreement?

You can go back to mediation with your former partner or family member at any time to make a new agreement.

If you have turned the agreement into a Consent Order, you can both agree to do something differently (for example, change the amount of your spousal maintenance payments). However, the change will not be legally binding unless you vary the Consent Order.

You should never just stop following a Consent Order, even if the other party won’t agree to change it, because you could have legal action taken against you. You can ask the court to vary the Order anyway or to ‘discharge’ (end) an Order that isn’t working.

Speak to our family mediation solicitors in York & North Yorkshire

For more information about using our family mediation service, contact your local Crombie Wilkinson office in York, Malton, Selby or Pickering.

Alternatively, use our quick online enquiry form to ask a question or request a call back at a time that suits you.


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